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“. Please know that the more romantic your proposal, the more likely you are that you’ll get divorced. I’ve seen it a million times. Some guy stages an elaborate proposal that includes hiding the ring at the top of a fucking restored Ferris Wheel that the bride rode as a child, and the couple ends up divorced nine months later. Meanwhile, the guy that proposes using a discarded cockring after the HPT comes back positive stays married for eight decades.” —The World’s Most Hipster Wedding Announcement May Justify Outlawing Love

Ahahaha I saw this earlier and loved this comment.

Jul 30, 201216 notes

Jul 30, 20122,791 notes

E.I. Nelly

noonat2pm:

One of my favorite activities this summer is riding around in my friend Abby’s Subaru singing along with this.

This was supposed to post to this blog but my other one is connected with Spotify so oops. Anyway, I had forgotten how much of a jam this song is. Load a bunch of friends into the car and crank it up.

Jul 30, 20121 note

#music #spotify

Also, tell me some movies to rent from iTunes.

Currently downloading Metropolitan which I have somehow never seen. I like quirky independent stuff including anything with Parker Posey (haven’t seen The Love Guide or whatever it’s called yet; is it good?), cute foreign romantic comedies, things with dick jokes, and chick flicks both good and terrible. What should I download?

Jul 29, 20123 notes

Jul 29, 2012123,796 notes

#Wanderlust #i have a keychain kassie gave me that's a little camera where you look through the viewfinder #and press the button on top and it shows a series of photos of chicago #and yesterday my 5yearold brother looked through it #and then said ''why didn't it show the eiffel tower?'' #and i was like ''...that's in france son.''

When I decided to read A Remembrance of Things Past this summer,

I didn’t realize it was one of the longest novels ever written. Has anyone read it?

Jul 29, 20126 notes

Jul 29, 201229 notes

#bring it on #the clash #Kirsten Dunst #movie #lolz #jesse bradford #music

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I’d posit that a more careful reading of SBTB might find it postmodern in that it subverts the traditional narrative that one might expect from a sitcom for teenagers in creating multiple, concurrent realities and demanding that the reader/viewer accept them without question or explanation.

Elements of this destabilization include, but are not limited to: the shift in location from Indiana to California early in the show, the midseason replacement of Kelly and Jessie with Tori (identified by Chuck Klosterman as “the Tori Paradox”), and the concurrent college narratives (Zack going to Yale, Slater going to Iowa, etc.) established and then violated by the College Years episodes.

Further, SBTB repeatedly manipulates the reader/viewer’s sense of space and time, as Zack has the ability to stop, reverse, and restart time. The lockers, similarly, function as a liminal space, as at times they are clearly shown to be traditional lockers and at times they appear to be permeable portals traveling all over the school.

Finally, SBTB relies heavily on the mask/disguise as a narrative device. These disguises are simultaneously terrible and effective, calling the very nature of identity into question. These characters, on the surface, are all shallow stereotypes, and yet they assume the guises of others and each other so frequently and effectively that one wonders whether they are all manifestations of a single, ur-teenager consciousness, akin to the six narrators of Woolf’s The Waves. I’d argue that this single consciousness is that of a teenaged Mr. Belding (Percival?), who has been hospitalized after a traumatic head injury, and imagines the show as a kind of fever-dream, living out his teenage years in a semi-vegetative state.

Or something.

” —Comment by DoALittleDance on Jezebel

Jul 29, 20122 notes

Today

Bloody Marys at my friends’ place this morning. Road-tripping to a brewery and singing along with Janis Joplin now. Stopping at the Bread & Puppet Museum later.

Jul 28, 20123 notes

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4:50

Jul 28, 20121,114 notes

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“People have argued that affirmative action is consistent or is not consistent with meritocracy,” Walton said. “Our argument is not that it’s consistent or inconsistent. Our argument is that you need affirmative action to make meritocratic decisions – to get the best candidates.”

The researchers say that people often assume that measures of merit like grades and test scores are unbiased – that they reflect the same level of ability and potential for all students.

Under this assumption, when an ethnic-minority student and a non-minority student have the same high school grades, they probably have the same level of ability and are likely to do equally well in college. When a woman and a man have the same score on a math test, it’s assumed they have the same level of math ability.

The problem is that common school and testing environments create a different psychological experience for different students. This systematically disadvantages negatively stereotyped ethnic minority students like African Americans and Hispanic Americans, as well as girls and women in math and science.

“When people perform in standard school settings, they are often aware of negative stereotypes about their group,” Walton says. “Those stereotypes act like a psychological headwind – they cause people to perform worse. If you base your evaluation of candidates just on performance in settings that are biased, you end up discriminating.”

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Affirmative action is needed to get the best candidates, psychologist says (via sociolab)

Reblogging for relevance

(via wretchedoftheearth)

Jul 28, 2012105 notes

Jul 27, 20125 notes

makeupandprofanity:

When people ask me how I “became a feminist:” Basically it’s like Tyra Mail that Luna from Sailor Moon brings you and you open it and glitter and arm pit hair falls out and then you read the message and it says “MISANDRY 2012,” and then your first vibrator appears under your pillow.

Jul 27, 20124,139 notes

#Help. #I'm dead. #Again.

Jul 26, 201210 notes

“There were days when she was unhappy, she did not know why, - when it did not seem worthwhile to be glad or sorry, to be alive or dead; when life appeared to her like a grotesque pandemonium and humanity like worms struggling blindly toward inevitable annihilation.” —

Kate Chopin (via bloodisthenewblackk)

OMG this is the day I’m having.

Jul 26, 201299 notes

You guys, my righteous anger seems to have dissipated of late.

I find that I kind of miss it, but at the same time I am totally out of fucks to give. It happened, it was shit, it’s over. How does Emily Thorne do it?

Jul 24, 201212 notes

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Jul 24, 201250,803 notes

I assume that the skirt you are talking about is light pink and pleated. Possiby with a black waistband?

It has accordion pleats but is light gray.

Jul 23, 20121 note

I assume you're a classy, funny person to be around. :3

I am funny or at least people laugh at me but more often than not spell classy with a K.

Jul 23, 20121 note

Things that make me look about 10 pounds heavier than I'd like to:

my face and arms

Things that are currently comfortably wearing a skirt I’ve had since sophomore year of high school that is a junior size small:

my waist

I DO NOT UNDERSTAND MY BODY!

Jul 23, 20123 notes

#This post brought to you by looking bloated on camera

thedisgruntledgradstudent:

hagofhags:

wyveraryborealis:

Put an assumption in my ask. I’ll confirm or dispute it. I’m not gonna be mean or anything, I’m just very interested.

Oh, DO DO DO. I think anon might even be enabled.

Entertain me? ETA: that link goes to my askbox now, instead of Hagger’s. I am a dunce

Against my better judgment, I will play.

Jul 23, 2012352,439 notes

bricksandmortarandchewinggum answered your question: Has anyone seen this Friends with Kids movie?

no it’s cute. rent it.

ramou replied to your post: Has anyone seen this Friends with Kids movie?

I loved it.

julyshewillfly answered your question: Has anyone seen this Friends with Kids movie?

I liked it.

OK thank you all! Actually it was $4 but is probs worth $4 to me.

Jul 22, 20124 notes

#bricksandmortarandchewinggum #ramou #julyshewillfly

Has anyone seen this Friends with Kids movie?

Should I rent it from iTunes for $3 or is it really bad? I’m sick of all my DVDs (well, except Bridesmaids, but I think I need to cut down) and need something to watch later.

Jul 22, 20128 notes

crysthao replied to your post: I saw The Dark Knight Rises.

Who is the second to last guy?!

It’s Agent Jarreau’s husband from Criminal Minds. I Googled him earlier but I already forgot his name!

Jul 22, 20123 notes

#crysthao

thedisgruntledgradstudent:

The president of Penn State said the statue of the Joe Paterno would be removed because it would be a “recurring wound to the multitude of individuals across the nation and beyond who have been the victims of child abuse.”

This is sort of amazing, particularly the level of understanding of the ways in which silently condoning the continued deference toward people who have protected child abusers causes real harm to survivors.

Jul 22, 201220 notes

#penn state #joe paterno

I saw The Dark Knight Rises.

The criticisms I had heard were that it was too long and too bleak. I actually found it to be a terrible story, but surprisingly upbeat(!), and I didn’t find it too long at all. I would watch these men read the dictionary so that probably helped:

Also I thought Anne Hathaway was great. I think we’re all supposed to hate her but I don’t. Sorry I’m not sorry. Meanwhile Marion Cotillard was infuriatingly flawless as always.

Jul 22, 20124 notes

#Dark Knight Rises #sexy people

Jul 22, 201219 notes

#cincinnati reds #skyline chili shuffle

Just cleaned kitchen while listening to Brandy and Adina Howard on Spotify..

Now cleaning living room while watching Living Single on DVD. On a 90s kind of day, I’m glad I got my 21st C technology.

Jul 21, 20124 notes

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#i am a member of the posey fandom #i don't actually watch teen wolf

“Every country has, along with its core civilities and traditions, some kind of inner madness, a belief so irrational that even death and destruction cannot alter it. In Europe not long ago it was the belief that “honor” of the nation was so important that any insult to it had to be avenged by millions of lives. In America, it has been, for so long now, the belief that guns designed to kill people indifferently and in great numbers can be widely available and not have it end with people being killed, indifferently and in great numbers. The argument has gotten dully repetitive: How does one argue with someone convinced that the routine massacre of our children is the price we must pay for our freedom to have guns, or rather to have guns that make us feel free?” —The Aurora Movie Theatre Shooting and American Gun Culture | The New Yorker (via ratsoff)

Jul 20, 20123,634 notes

Does anyone know of any success stories where a retailer expanded from online to brick-and-mortar, as opposed to the other way around?

I’m trying to determine the feasibility of something. Input appreciated.

Sincerely,

A Would-Be Entrepreneur Who Lacks Start-up Capital

“Channing’s in a dancing movie. The rest of us are in a dry humping movie.” —

Joe Manganiello (via ladonnapietra)

But what a dry hump it was.

(via nanner)

Honey you did more than dry humping.

I feel like he was underutilized in the movie, though. Same with Matt Bomer.

Jul 15, 201293 notes

Here are the movies I can see at my local theater (and possible reasons not to):

Brave (fiery redhead tropes)
Moonrise Kingdom (The Darjeeling Limited)
Savages (Blake Lively playing someone other than Serena)
To Rome With Love (have heard is terrrrrrrrible aside from the scenery)

Anyway which of these should I see?

Jul 15, 201210 notes

#I think the answer is Moonrise Kingdom

Jul 15, 20129 notes

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You're young and brilliant and I know that your degree will stand you in good stead, no matter what you choose to do. I've felt so frustrated for the past couple years because I haven't experienced a "career epiphany," but your answer confirmed that contemplative waiting is worthwhile. I wish you the best.

Thanks. This helps.

Jul 15, 20123 notes

Kat, what would you have done differently with regard to your current career situation? I'm a 25-year-old with an Ivy League degree and zero debt who is currently trying to muster the courage to take out six figures for a graduate degree that will (supposedly??) help me land a more stimulating job. Advice? I think you're smart and creative and I look up to you.

The short answer is, I don’t know. (Also, don’t look up to me! I am 30 years old and wasting my time on solipsistic bullshit problems that would be better suited to a Lena Dunham project. I am aimless and can’t finish anything and my primary relationship is with a housecat, albeit a very cute one.)

I wish I had a computer science degree, and also a design degree. I feel like I am destined to be an autodidact with regard to the stuff I actually care about, which is basically music, art, and fashion. What I really want is to be an entrepreneur, so I guess what I would have done differently is anything that would have gotten me to a place where I could do that at this point in my life. I wish I had more money and knew how to write code. I wish I had a job where my primary responsibility was to just know everything that is going on in pop culture. I would like to spend at least two months a year abroad. If I could do anything, I would open a multilevel boutique with a gallery space inside. I would sell small-batch clothing and accessory items from independent designers like my friends Fritz and Truly, graphic novels and biographies of women I admire, and Japanese stationery, as well as other random crap I like. Our customer service would be amazing and you would want to hang out at the store all the time and also hopefully buy a lot of stuff. We would also play really good music, like maybe French electro-pop interspersed with some quieter Stones tracks in the morning. No pretension and nothing super-expensive. I would like it to eventually have a cult following like Colette and then we could partner with other companies on lines. But I am 30 years old and $140K in debt so unless I come up with a get rich quick scheme, this is not happening. Maybe Oliver could start a YouTube channel and figure out how to monetize it?

Sorry, I know this isn’t advice. I guess my advice is that you need to make sure that every big decision you make is something you really want. Don’t do anything designed to open doors unless you’re sure you know which doors you want opened. The best job I have ever had was working at a children’s boutique on Beacon Hill in Boston, and the things I didn’t like about it were things I wouldn’t have to put up with if I owned a business. Meanwhile I have wanted to be a novelist since I was six, and I just found a pile of essays I wrote in junior high about the importance of being an individual and my desire to work in fashion. I have always wanted to write and work in fashion. I keep doing things to try to talk myself out of those two unstable careers, like getting a business degree, but at the end of the day the stuff I wanted as a kid is the stuff I want now. And because I wasted so much time lying to myself I now have a bunch of debt and no desirable way out of it.

Jul 14, 20125 notes

Seriously, why are people always defending the worst "comedy?"

If Bamford comes out in support of this, I quit.

Jul 11, 201212 notes

[TW: Rape] List of Comedians defending Tosh

stfuconservatives:

abokononist:

sonic-hip-attack:

List of Comedians that are being unapologetically dense about this issue:

Jim Norton (“Why is it okay for an actor to play a rapist, but not for a comic to joke about it?”)

Louis C.K. (“your show makes me laugh every time I watch it. And you have pretty eyes”)

Patton Oswalt (“Wow, @danieltosh had to apologize to a self-aggrandizing, idiotic blogger. Hope I never have to do that (again).”)

Dane Cook (“If you journey through life easily offended by other peoples words I think it’s best for everyone if you just kill yourself”)

Anthony Jeselnik (“An offended audience member repeating a comedian’s act from memory is worse than, literally, anything”)

Stevie Ryan (“Daniel Tosh can’t make a rape joke but Eminem can have hit songs about it? PS. AIDS jokes are funnier”)

Doug Stanhope (“You’re hilarious. If you ever apologize to a heckler again I will rape you. #FuckThatPig”) — wow.

Opie Radio (“To all the idiots! I completely support Daniel Tosh being a comic in a comedy club! Even if it means rape jokes!”)

Kumail Nanjiani (“Two things about the Tosh thing. 1. It was said in the moment and not a pre written thing. 2. If you think he’s pro rape you’re an idiot.”) — this one, though. as though it makes it better that it was an off-the-cuff comment. don’t you see how revealing that is about him and his values?

Sarah Beattie (“calm down about rape jokes everyone’s been raped at least once by george lucas”)

Doug Benson (“Maybe Daniel Tosh was confused about where he was. He wouldn’t have offended anyone over at the Rape Factory. #ThisTweetWillBeDeletedSoon”)

Just so you have a list and can see how horrible people are all in one place

Goddammit, Louis CK was always my favorite.

Folks, here’s what you can do if you’re disgusted by this:

Tweet at the comedian in question. People who are really into tweeting are generally narcissists who check their replies a lot. If you can, resist the urge to tweet “YOU ARE A FUCKING SEXIST PIG, CRACKER VON PATRIARCH!” and say something like “Wow, didn’t expect you to be a rape apologist. Disappointing.” or “All of your best bits are the ones that DON’T induce PTSD in your audience.” or “Why do you feel the need to defend someone who suggested a woman get raped? For real? #gross”

Tweet about the show. Companies now rely more on social media “impressions” than things like ratings. If lots of those impressions are negative, they’ll notice.

Mention it on their Facebook page. Again, impressions.

Unfollow their Twitter/FB page/tumblr. Even if you can’t resist the urge to check it every now and then, social media numbers matter a LOT to celebs, especially comedians.

In the future, if they announce new projects, tweet something like “Well, I was gonna buy @PattonOswalt’s new DVD, but since he felt the need to defend a rape apologist, I guess I feel the need to just watch it on YouTube.” Hit ‘em where it hurts: their bottom line.

Ughhhhhhh Patton Oswalt you are breaking my heart.

Jul 11, 20128,446 notes

#daniel tosh #comedians #comedy #rape jokes

A visualization exercise:

Tomorrow morning, I will get up at 6 when my alarm goes off. I will do some sun salutations, drink four cups of hot water with lemon, and go for a two-mile run. I will come back and get ready and start my work by 9.

I will not play Scramble with Friends or watch episodes of James Woods courtroom drama Shark.

Jul 9, 201212 notes

Google tells me

that it is possible that my allergies are making me depressed. This explains why I didn’t get out of bed until 11:30 this morning when I am usually up by 7 and why I am currently having my friend Kevin talk me off a ledge re: regretting this degree and having no interest in having a corporate job ever again but feeling like I have no say in the matter because I am $140K in debt. Also there is no Internet at my apartment and it’s like someone sawed one of my arms off. I watched Tiny Furniture 1.8 times in 24 hours until Oliver walked across my laptop and hit Stop so my rental period expired, possibly out of concern that I was relating too much to the aimless 22yo protagonist. I wish I could have a do-over of, like, the last 13 years of my life, armed with the knowledge I have now. Maybe I should write a chick-lit book like that.

Jul 9, 201215 notes

Jul 6, 20124 notes

How to Be a Heartbreaker Marina and the Diamonds

Marina and the Diamonds | How To Be A Heartbreaker

Obsessed with this song and have been trying to download it all week. Where can I find it?! Also not ashamed to say I found it through Lauren Conrad’s blog.

Jul 6, 20121,262 notes

#music #marina and the diamonds

“But ambition is like a poison and a gift tangled together and it makes you leave and leave and leave again, leave places, leave people, leave your whole life. Ambition and something else that I don’t know how to name but it’s what I share my house with, the house of my body, ambition and something that is ruthless and cruel and says only, ever, Is that a good story, and if the answer is no it says Move on. The best we can hope for is to be good enough to justify how brutal we are. The summer after I graduated I had no idea what I was in for or what I had started, no idea where that move would take me, no idea that I would come out the other end transformed. Not a butterfly but a vulture or maybe on my better days a bird of prey. When you are a woman or a girl or female no one says to you Look, artists who are great take without asking and take and take and do not apologize because when you are a woman or a girl or female the only thing you are supposed to take is a lot of other people’s shit. No one says to you Be sure you are strong enough to take and not apologize and keep going when the taking leaves you nothing to go back to. Be sure you are strong enough to steal and live alone with what you’ve chosen to make yours.” —“What I Did the Summer After I Graduated,” Sarah McCarry (via katiecoyle)

Jul 6, 201234 notes

I need salad recipes.

Last summer I lived off the Whole Foods salad bar which was surprisingly affordable. This summer I live in a town where the closest thing to a Whole Foods salad bar just charged me $12 for a a small slice of savory tart and a side of bean salad. Not sustainable (economically, at least — all ingredients were obviously local). Do any of you have recipes for prepared salads that I can make on Sunday and eat the rest of the week? I eat most vegetables/cheeses/legumes/meats, and this place is populated by yuppie transplants so we have access to pretty much everything. Halp?

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